In Search..

A couple of days ago one of my friend came to me and said ” You know what someone tried to commit suicide”. My reaction was at best negative . “What ?? How can someone do this?? Your parents pay up so much so that you get the best of the education and this is what you do of it. I think the selection panel doesn’t know anything to shortlist such candidates and put them in a place like this. How can a person be emotionally so weak as to take such a step??”. Those were some of the first few things i heard myself saying after i got to know of it. I then questioned my friend about why the person took such a drastic step. The reason as i came to know was pressure of unable to cope with studies coupled with inferiority complex ( God knows what inferiority complex a person can have at such a place ). Well that seemed to be a contradiction to me( Many of my friends would agree to this and they definitely know the reason as well ).The day passed and the incident took the backseat in my mind and i went about my work. While going to one of my classes today i suddenly overheard two friends of mine. The snapshots of the conversation go as follows.
Friend 1 : I think we should go and encourage her.
Friend 2 : Yes we should. I heard her mom is not here yet to see her.
Friend 1 : I would disown my mom if she did anything like this when something happens to me.
Friend 2 : I think her dad is here for sometime.
Friend 1 : Sometime ??? Thats ridiculous . From when did parents start behaving like this ???
Friend 2 : Anyways i think we should go and visit her, she would feel better if we go.

By this time i was intently listening to the conversation and had more or less joined it. I said i would be glad if anyone would take me along when they would go to visit her( the case being i did not know the concerned person as she was a junior ). As soon as classes got over i decided to make a move. I thought I would call along my friends but it seemed they were busy. I had to make this journey alone . I reached the ICU and went inside wondering where to look for the concerned person. There was only 1 bed that was occupied which spared me the trouble of asking people. As i reached the bed i discovered that i was looking into an innocent face. She even spoke like a kid flashing her sweet smile while talking. She seemed confident enough to me. Anyways i decided to give my best shot to allay all her fears about the course. I tried my best to give her the hope and encouragement that i could .While heading back towards my college i was still thinking “What is that that made her take such a drastic step ?. Life is not easy and we all know that and if we are bogged down by such small hurdles then what about the bigger challenges in life. Yes at times we are faced with choices that are hard to make but that does not mean that we give up our attempts to solve the problem. Does this not show the inclination towards negative thinking that this girl has ?? Why is it that we always so quickly take to negative things and fail to see the positive aspects of a situation ?? Does it call for a total change in the education system that is followed in our country ?? Where do you learn how to be positive ??? Can these things be thought ??? Can attitude be changed ??? If yes how???”

I cannot revert what has happened but am in search of answers to these question which may possibly give me the reason as to why did someone have to do what was done .

Clutch your Life

It has been on my mind for quiet sometime now and i have thought quiet a lot about it. Now this
was during the time when i was learning how to drive a four wheeler that this idea struck me. We all have driven a vehicle at some point in time or the other. One peculiar thing about a two
wheeler or a four wheeler is that they employ the concept of clutch . Now we all know that when
the clutch is operational or more so when it is pressed the vehicle is under free wheeling motion and it tends to go faster than when under the influence of the clutch. Let us try to draw a comparison
between two seemingly unrelated things. Let us assume that the human body is like a vehicle.
Now we know at there are various factors that influence our behaviour and the choices we make in our life. We
may be greatly influenced by the society that we live in or may be our family has greater
influence in deciding what we end up doing in life. Also it can be the case that being human i would like to emulate my role model if i have any. From this we can conclude that at any point in time our actions are not independent, they are a result of a collusion of various such forces that are acting together to influence the outcome of the decision. Now there has to be a primary force amog these and all the other forces have to be secondary. Primay force is the main motive for pursuing that desired goal and the other secondary forces are the external factors that influence you to pursue that goal. For example I might want to learn dancing because i donot know how to dance which will be the primary force but if i say that dancing is good for health or i want to learn dancing because all my friends are doing it then these will come under secondary forces . Though the secondary forces are genuine but they donot motivate you enough to classify as the primary force.These type of various forces that help us decide in favour of or against a decision act like clutches in their own way . Yes i agree to the fact that without taking anything into consideration and deciding in favour of something would be foolishness( that is opting to do a certain task without deciding whether there is some value addition or not to be gained from it ). Then there is the will of our parents who want us to pursue something which we donot want to. This can again be classified as a secondary force . This article necesarily focuses on the affect of the secondary forces and not the primary forces on our life. The primary force will motivate us enough to pursue our goal , for example, i want to be a successful CEO of a multi national company for which i need an MBA degree which inturn can be acquired only when i get through a good business school. Now to get into a good business school i need to appear for any of the management entrance exams. The primary force acting here is that i want to be a succesful CEO . Some of the secondary forces that are influencing this situation are as follows : Preparation for the management entrance exam, unnecesarry worrry about the difficulty of the exam, managinig my own work/studies while preparing for the entrance and other such forces . Now if the preparation for the exam is done keeping in mind that the candidate wants to be the
CEO and not worrying factors such as the difficulty of the exam, the competition faced by other students etc then it is guaranteed that the candidate will be able to perform far more effeciently
in thein the exam. What i want to communicate is that we shoud clutch all the secondary factors that tend to
influences our life in negative way and let the life move freely on the accelarated road powered
by the positive energy.Let the life go on its own way and donot constraint it with unnecessary clutter .

A Beginning

IF IT IS TO BE IT IS UP TO ME ....the epitome of human learning is reflected in this line ....yes it is true that everything that will hapen to me is a consequence of how i will take it up or view it ...my perception about the happenings in life will determine my actions which in turn will trigger a series of actions which will set into motion the dormant side of the very thing that i aspire to effect...or may be not the so dormant side ..but it will defenitely have some effect which i desire ...whether the effect is with the same intensity or not is a different matter ....atleast this is a beginning ...all things have to start at some point in time or the other ......"WE LEARN" ......by doing new things we will learn ...new things will only take into effect when we begin somewhere .....so here i am on a journey to discover what is more to life than the mundane things that i do everyday.